It’s Going To Be Okay

Be Proud Of Yourself For Being Here Today

We’re often so hard on ourselves, by having unrealistic expectations, impossible timelines, and perfectionistic tendencies, that we have a difficult time acknowledging all the incredible, magical progress we make daily, in the simplest, most meaningful ways.

Tuck yourself into bed tonight and before falling asleep, reflect on all the beautiful ways you have made your life and the lives of your family, friends, and the strangers you meet along the way, more joyful and rewarding.

Remember this has been a challenging time for everyone, in varying degrees, so be proud of yourself for being here today.

Sometimes a door closes not because we failed, but because something bigger than us says: “This no longer fits your life.” So, close the door, shed your tears, and when you’re ready, turn around and look for the new door that’s opened.

It’s a sign that you’re no longer that person you were.

It’s time to change into who you are now, today.

It’s going to be okay.

 

 

Written by: Lee Goff

You Are Never To Old

Age shouldn’t be a barrier to doing the things you love

Something really incredible happened in the world of professional surfing in Feb 2022. Eleven time world champion Kelly Slater won the Pipeline Pro on the North Shore in Hawaii. This may not sound remarkable to most people, especially if you don’t know anything about pro surfing.

What does make it remarkable however, is the fact that Kelly Slater is 50 years old.

This is the 8th time he’s won this event. He first won this event 30 years ago in 1992, the same year that he won his first world title at the tender age of 20.  The guy he beat in the final,  Seth Moniz, is 23 years old. When Seth was born, Kelly had already won 5 world titles ( he would go on to win 11 and he’s still not done..)

What makes it even more incredible is the fact that Pipeline is one of the most dangerous waves in the world, having claimed the lives of 11 surfers over the years. It’s an extremely heavy wave breaking over a very shallow, jagged reef.

And the waves were massive throughout the contest window.

The point of this story is that here is this 50 year old guy, beating the best surfers in the world who are less than half his age, in waves that can kill you.

Obviously he is a freak and the greatest surfer of all time, but it just shows you that age shouldn’t be a barrier to doing the things you love. If you stay fit, healthy and strong, you can keep doing the things you love for as long as you want. You don’t have to give up on the things you love doing just because you think you’re too old.

You’re only as old as the way you live your life. So get out there and do what you love. You’ve only got one life. Make the most of it.

(Pictured: Kelly charging a huge Pipeline pit en route to his historic win and his emotional response to the victory)

Written by Michael Hansen from Hansen Strong

Image copy write: Getty Images & World Surfing League

Dear Husband, There Will Be A Life In The Future….

….But the future must wait!

Dear husband,

There’s a life in the future with little faces in photo frames instead of before our eyes, artwork and ABC magnets won’t adorn our fridge, and these leggings I’m wearing right now will be long gone.

There’s a bed big enough, where little elbows and knees won’t prod us in our sleep and only our feet will swing out in the morning.

There’s a vase placed in reach of little arms because there aren’t any little arms, and mugs will daringly sit on the edge of the table.

There’s a bank balance that looks a bit more forgiving, a bag I leave with that isn’t overflowing, and it will only take us 10 seconds from the door to the car.

There’s a free calendar that isn’t packed with swimming lessons, dance classes and muddy sports shoes. And we’ll get to know each other for a third time, before them, with them, and then when only two jackets hang at the door.

There’s a clean car, the only noise is the hum of the radio. There will be no endless questions in a high pitched voice from the back seat, there may even be days we don’t hear from them at all.

There’s a date night with no curfew, my mums not needed for babysitting, and we aren’t sleeping with one eye open waiting for the shuffle of feet down the hallway. A type of freedom that feels heavy.

There’s a house that’s clean, maybe our couch is new, and we aren’t stepping on Lego or toy cars either. In fact there’s not much colour anywhere, remember how we hated all the colour? Remember how it came with so much happiness?

There’s a dinner table that feels big, we aren’t negotiating bites of vegetables or wiping little hands and mouths. But sometimes there’s a knock on the door and the table is full once more.

There’s a shower that doesn’t sound like baby cries, a coffee that is warm and my body will be my own. We won’t wear tired the same way but time will have aged us anyway.

There will be hard moments to come that will make these moments look easy, but we’ll remember.

We’ll remember the first words, the curls, the “I love you’s” the moments we almost broke, and how we held each other through it. We’ll laugh and we’ll cry just like we did then.

There’s a life in the future and it’s coming for us every day. So let’s get swept up in the beautiful chaos in front of us.

Let’s make the future wait a little longer.

Because I love this life with you so much, this one right now.

Welcome Kids For Who They Are, Not What They Lack

How The Girl Who Couldn’t Sit Still In School Influenced The World Of Dance

Gillian is a seven-year-old girl who cannot sit in school.  She continually gets up, gets distracted, flies with thoughts, and doesn’t follow lessons. Her teachers worry about her, punish her, scold her, reward the few times that she is attentive, but nothing.  Gillian does not know how to sit and cannot be attentive.

When she comes home, her mother punishes her too.  So not only does she Gillian have bad grades and punishment at school, but she also suffers from them at home.

One day, Gillian’s mother is called to school. The lady, sad as someone waiting for bad news, takes her hand and goes to the interview room. The teachers speak of illness, of an obvious disorder. Maybe it’s hyperactivity or maybe she needs a medication.

During the interview an old teacher arrives who knows the little girl. He asks all the adults, mother and colleagues, to follow him into an adjoining room from where she can still be seen.  As he leaves, he tells Gillian that they will be back soon and turns on an old radio with music.

As the girl is alone in the room, she immediately gets up and begins to move up and down chasing the music in the air with her feet and her heart. The teacher smiles as the colleagues and the mother look at him between confusion and compassion, as is often done with the old. So he says:

“See? Gillian is not sick, Gillian is a dancer!”

He recommends that her mother take her to a dance class and that her colleagues make her dance from time to time.  She attends her first lesson and when she gets home she tells her mother:

“Everyone is like me, no one can sit there!”

In 1981, after a career as a dancer, opening her own dance academy and receiving international recognition for her art, Gillian Lynne became the choreographer of the musical “Cats.”

Hopefully all “different” children find adults capable of welcoming them for who they are and not for what they lack.

Long live the differences, the little black sheep and the misunderstood.

They are the ones who create beauty in this world.

To The Child Who Didn’t Win Awards: I See You

It’s a time of badges, certificates, medals, trophies, recognition, awards, prizes and ‘seeing’ of high achievement. I love seeing the kids that shine at this time of year – a big high heartfelt round of applause to you. You so deserve it for the effort you have put in.

But this message is for the kids that didn’t get called up for any of the above…

I SEE YOU.

To the child that conquered their fear of heights, or sleeping in the dark, or riding without training wheels or sleeping out for the night for the first time this year, I SEE YOU

To the child that managed to resolve more conflict than they started this year, to the child that learnt to say the impossible; “I’m sorry”, and to the child that walked away from the fighting instead of getting involved, I SEE YOU

To the child for whom school is a huge struggle, you get up everyday and you go, I SEE YOU

To the child that battled all year with the maths, or reading, or concentration, or speaking out in class, or learning their words, but persevered anyway, I SEE YOU

To the child that found the kindness in their heart reach out in anyway to another person or to an animal in need or in pain, I SEE YOU

To the child that learnt to give and to share for the first time this year and even found joy in these, I SEE YOU

To the child that battles to make friends and to be social, you made new friends this year and for that, I SEE YOU

To the child who wanted so much to please, but was just out of sight of an adult who perhaps was too busy or too distracted, I SEE YOU

To the child who lost a friend or a loved one this year, but carried on everyday bravely even though their heart ached, I SEE YOU

To the brave parents that try every day to do the best for their kids, I SEE YOU.

May you and your children revel in small but significant victories that you have both experienced this year, as I will with my beautiful children.

For every year there is progress and growth, we don’t need a podium or handshake or a hall of applause to be seen.

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Source: Colleen Wilson