Entries by Julia Fryer

Kindness is Never Forgotten

People Never Forget Kindness The most extra-ordinary thing happened to me this week. My kids had finished playing club hockey in the evening and we had quickly nipped into a 24 hour grocery store on the way home to get dinner. A lady who I had met briefly for the first time at hockey that […]

Listen Carefully When People Say, “I’m Okay”

Listen to Hear When people respond to your greeting saying they are “Okay,” listen carefully and look in their eyes. They may very well not be okay. Why do we do that? Why do we pretend that everything is “Okay” when our hearts are breaking? I cannot tell you the number of times I have […]

What Is Happiness?

Happiness exists in the understanding that the pain holds just as much importance as the beauty. I think we’ve been taught from such a young age that happiness is meant to be this big, all-consuming thing. That it is this moment that cracks open our bones, changes our lives and sweeps all of the weight […]

On The Death Of A Loved One

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep. I could see that you were crying, you found it hard to sleep. I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear, “It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.” I was close to you at […]

The Battle Between Head and Heart

My brain and heart divorced a decade ago over who was to blame about how big of a mess I have become. Eventually, they couldn’t be in the same room with each other. Now my head and heart share custody of me. I stay with my brain during the week and my heart gets me […]

What Children Do and Don’t Need

As a pediatric therapist for more than 30 years, I have come up with a list of what I believe kids need and don’t need.  I wish I could have a do-over on a few of these. What Children Do Not Need: 1. Cell phones when they’re in grade school. Over the years, I cannot […]

You Are Not Breaking: You Are Becoming

You are not breaking down – you are a process of becoming who you are meant to be. Me: Hey God. God: Hello….. Me: I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together? God: I would rather not. Me: Why? God: Because you aren’t a puzzle. Me: What about all of the pieces of my […]

I Will Not Apologise For My Pricing

No Small Business Should Apolgise For Their Pricing. My pricing allows me to make a profit. Which allows me to pay my bills. Which also allows me to stay in business. My pricing allows me to employ people. Which allows them to pay their bills. My pricing allows me to pay myself for the countless […]

If You Choose A Woman…

Every Woman Is Unique….. If you choose a working woman, you have to accept that she cannot manage the house full time. If you choose a housewife who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she does not make money. If you choose a submissive woman, you must […]

Know Your Worth

You Are Worthless In the Wrong Place A father said to his daughter: “For your graduation I would like to give you a car that I bought a long time ago. But before I give it to you, I would like you to take it to a car dealership in the city to find out […]

Wonderful Women

I’m a big fan of women who snort when they laugh. Women who overshare awkward truths when the conversation stalls. I’m a big believer in singing loudly in the car whenever possible and I love pulling alongside a fellow diva doing the same. I’m a big fan of women who love women, who spot toilet […]

It’s Going To Be Okay

Be Proud Of Yourself For Being Here Today We’re often so hard on ourselves, by having unrealistic expectations, impossible timelines, and perfectionistic tendencies, that we have a difficult time acknowledging all the incredible, magical progress we make daily, in the simplest, most meaningful ways. Tuck yourself into bed tonight and before falling asleep, reflect on […]

Mum’s You Are Enough: Don’t Compare

The Perfect Social Media Mum A few days ago while at the pool I watched a young Mama and her little daughter enter the pool area dressed in very nice coordinating swimming suits. The mom, with her perfect loose curls tied up in a coordinating scarf, spent the first few minutes talking loudly on her […]

Invite a Physicist To Your Funeral

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in […]

Mental Health Matters

Sertraline – Zoloft Venlafaxine – Effexor Citalopram – Celexa Mirtazapine – Remeron Fluoxetine – Prozac Duloxetine – Cymbalta Seroquel – Quetiapine Lamictal – Lamotrigine Lexapro – Escitalopram Wellbutrin- Bupropion Lorazepam – Ativan Klonopin – Clonazepam You may know what these tablets are or know a loved one who takes them, but in case you don’t, […]

As Time Goes By

As time goes by, You will loosen your grip on that rock, The one you always thought was home, And you will realise that home is not a place, It’s a state of mind. Let it go.   As time goes by, You will learn to see yourself more clearly, The girl who was always […]